Reunion safety center

Before first contact

• Compare non-identifying facts before sharing a phone number, address, workplace, or family details.
• Assume that a match score is a lead—not proof.
• Do not send money, gift cards, banking information, Social Security numbers, passwords, or identity documents.
• Remember that the other person may need time or may choose not to communicate.

Verifying a connection

Use multiple independent facts. Records from an official agency, a confidential intermediary, known relatives, and appropriately handled DNA results may help. Be cautious with screenshots or documents supplied by only one person.

Meeting in person

• Meet in a public place during daylight.
• Tell a trusted person where you will be and when you expect to return.
• Use your own transportation and keep control of your belongings.
• Do not pressure anyone to bring children, relatives, money, or documents.

Scams and coercion

Stop contact and report the account if someone asks for money, threatens exposure, demands immediate access to relatives, impersonates an agency, or refuses reasonable verification.

Emotional safety

Reunion can surface grief, anger, loyalty conflicts, and different expectations. A qualified counselor familiar with adoption may help. The registry does not provide crisis counseling. Contact emergency services or an appropriate crisis service for immediate danger.